Most people think that habits and emotions are independent of each other. We can easily think of acquiring habits of action and thinking, but are apt to think of emotions as connected to feeling and not requiring any intellectual effort. However they are not independent of each other and they are both largely dependent on habit. You may increase, repress, develop and change your emotions just as you can regulate your habits of action and thought.
Emotions deepen by repetition. If you allow your emotions to take control of you just once it will be easier for it to take control of you a second time, and so on, until that emotion of feeling becomes second nature. This can become a problem especially if it is an undesirable emotion. If it is an undesirable emotion then you need get rid of it at once or at least master it. The best time to do this is at the start before in becomes too difficult.
All negative emotions need to be controlled but one in particular to really get control of is worry. People start by worrying about big things, and then begin to worry and fret about small things. Soon even the smallest of problems will worry and distress them. Some people even believe that evil things are about to happen to them.
If they are about to start a trip they think that they will have a wreck even before they start. If their child is more quite than usual they are sure it will become ill and die. If the husband seems thoughtful as he mulls over a business plan in his mind, then the wife is convinced that he is falling out of love with her and has a crying spell.
And so it goes worry, worry, worry. Every time you worry about something it will only make it easier for you to worry about it again. Get a hold of your emotions and stop worrying.
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